We’ve all heard it said that no one benefits from us playing small. Dimming your light to avoid conflict, jealousy or backlash is not a good reason to limit your greatness.
The truth is, stepping out on a faith and choosing the path less taken is really scary.
You’ve never done this before, you’re a fish out of water, your friends and family think you’re putting the horse before the cart. And if you’re honest with yourself, the fact may be that you’re looking for those “outs.”
You’re looking for someone to tell you that you’re not quite ready for the next step.
We’ve all been there with many of our goals.
For me, this year has been one giant emotional stress bomb after the other, some incredibly happy, some incredibly sad…and as a result I have overeaten and remained largely under-active. The truth is, I know what I need to do. Back in 2009, as I reached my heaviest weight, I immediately went into action and dropped a total of 50 lbs. I had folks telling me that I was getting “too small,” but I didn’t let that stop me. I knew what I wanted to look and feel like. Fast forward to 2017, (after a rough start to the year and about 20 added lbs) and I’ve had a few people in my corner encouraging me to get back in the gym and eat better, but I’ve leaned toward the “it’s OK, you’ll get there” comment, over the strong pushes for me to actually get off my a** and get much more serious about eating better.
It is not lost on me, that this happens to a lot of us when we want to launch a new idea. We're revved up, we're excited, we're ready to go! And then...someone or something has told us we’re not quite ready, and in our willingness to avoid the frightening feelings of the unknown, we lean back into the fears of others as a mask for our own uncertainty.
The year is almost over, the holidays will soon consume us and our thoughts of our goals will be pushed off to 2018 resolutions and vision boards. And the thing that no one tells you about making a decision is that decisions are not inherently good or bad, they are just decisions. It is the results of those actions that allow us to choose if the path we chose was good or bad.
Indecision is what should really frighten you. Pushing off your goals until some intangible feeling of “readiness” hits you, is what should frighten you. Being afraid of how good you are, of how far your talent can take you—that’s a good scare! That’s an empowering scare! That’s that extra huff you take in the gym to get in the extra rep!
Muscles are sore days after a new workout because they are waking up! They are stretching and being put to good use!
Do we want to feel sore?! No, not really, but does feeling sore end up coming with feelings of accomplishment and self-satisfaction?! Yes! Does working out those muscles more and more yield better and better results?! Yes! Might we get bumps and bruises along the way?! Yes. But those bumps and bruises are lessons learned, pivots made and goals reached.
You cannot be afraid to fail, because it will paralyze you. And inaction is ultimately making the decision to do nothing, which only puts you even further away from your goal. Hold in your mind why you were so excited in the first place, how many people you want to help, whose world you want to change, what purpose you want to fulfill---this is your driving force, and this is what should NOT scare you.
On this Halloween Day, just say screw it! It's a day to be "scared," right? Do what Nike says and just do it! If you're going to make that move, make it, no matter how small, no matter how much it scares you.
This post was inspired by every person who has been passionate about an idea, project, new business or side hustle, and was talked out it by some well-meaning people.